5 tips for getting more sleep

May these sleeping puppies
 inspire you to go to bed.

We have all heard that we should sleep at least eight hours a night.   However, most of us function with some level of sleep deprivation.  I, too, have a long history of being sleep-deprived, so this post is as much of a reminder to me as it is for you.

When we are well -rested, we make smart decisions, feel emotionally balanced, and feel ready to face the world.  It turns out that we are also healthier. Here are a few things about sleep and health outcomes that you may not know (research compiled by Harvard Pilgrim Health Care):

Obesity:
Several studies have linked insufficient sleep and weight gain.  One study found that people who slept fewer than six hours per night on a regular basis were much more likely to have excess body weight, while people who slept an average of eight hours per night had the lowest relative body fat of the study group.

Diabetes:
Studies have shown that people who report sleeping fewer than five hours per night had a greatly increased risk of having or developing type 2 diabetes.  Studies have also shown that improved sleep can positively influence blood sugar control and reduce the effects of type 2 diabetes.

Cardiovascular Disease and Hypertension:
A recent study found that even modestly reduced sleep (six to seven hours per night) was associated with an increased risk for heart attack and heart disease.

Immune Function:
Several studies suggest that sleep deprivation may decrease the body's ability to fight off infection.

The Common Cold:
In a recent study, people who averaged less than seven hours of sleep a night were about three times more likely to develop cold symptoms than those who got eight or more hours of sleep when exposed to the virus that causes colds.  And those who got better quality sleep were the least likely to come down with a cold.


So, knowing all of that, how do we get more sleep?  Here are five tips.

1) Go to bed at the same time every night and get up at the same time every morning.  This will help your body set an internal clock and help it understand that it's time to sleep when you go to bed.

2) Go to bed before 11pm.  There is evidence to show that our bodies create a new "awake cycle" at 11pm and that it's more difficult to fall asleep after that time.

3) Create a regular evening ritual. You want this ritual to signal to yourself that it's time to get ready for sleep.This could involve turning off your electronics and turning down the lights an hour before bed or cuddling up with a book and some herbal tea.

4) Avoid caffeine in the evening.  It can interfere with your ability to fall asleep at bed time.

5) Do something relaxing before bed.  Try taking a bath or doing some restorative yoga before bed to relax your muscles and your mind.


Have you had success in getting 8 hours of sleep a night?  If so, I'd love to hear about it. Write below or shoot me an email! And good luck getting those ZZZZzzzzzzzzzzzz's.

Tips for playing well with others

If you're working to build a healthy relationship with someone else, be it a partner, a friend, a family member, or a coworker, you might notice that the path is fraught with bumps and detours.  For today, let's talk about the four relationship destroyers (as defined by Dr Brad at the Daily Worth):


criticism
             contempt
                             defensiveness
                                                    disengagement

Hugs never hurt, either.

If you really look at your behavior, you will note that at least one of these nasty little guys creeps in upon occasion.  Here's a quick set of tips for consciously cutting the relationship destroyers out of your life.

1) Notice when these nasties creep up on you.  Is it when you feel threatened?  When you don't get what you expect? When you're running late?  During breakfast?  When you didn't get enough sleep?

2) Ask yourself why you default to this behavior.  What is it about the situation that particularly brings these out?

3) Create a scenario in your mind where you are put in one of these aggravating situations.  Now imagine yourself responding in a different way.

4) Take action.  Instead of following your same old script the next time you're in that situation, consciously choose a different response.


Choosing a different response and creating new habits will not happen overnight, but if you can work to change your behavior consistently, you will find that the relationship in question improves significantly.

Any other ideas for changing negative behavior in your relationships?  Share below or shoot me an email.

7 tips to improved body image

Following up on last week's post, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, I wanted to share a few concrete ideas on how you can get out of your head about your body image.  The more you can integrate your mind and your body, the better you will feel.  In the spirit of being healthy physically AND mentally in this image-obsessed culture, here are a few ways that you can feel good about your bod.


1) Stop using the mirror
Go a month without using a mirror, and notice how it makes you feel.  (If you're paranoid, Ask a housemate or a co worker that you trust to be on duty to tell you if you've got green stuff in your teeth.)  There's a great article about this here at whole living magazine.

2) Stop counting calories and weighing yourself
Instead focus on exercise, eating healthy, and taking good care of yourself.   Pay particular attention to how good those things make you feel.

3) Wear clothes that make you feel good
They need not be expensive.  (I get most of mine at thrift stores and at clothing swaps.)  Ladies, I'd like to recommend this fantastic blog, Already Pretty, which focuses on dressing for your body type and feeling good in your own skin.

4) Have more sex
Enjoying your sexuality is a GREAT way to feel good in your body.  I recommend listening to the Savage Love Podcast for tips on how to enjoy your sexuality.   Get playful with your partner or get a new toy for yourself.  You'll feel better, really.

5) Go outside
If you live in a city, go to the park.  If you live in the country, go for a walk in the woods.  Being a part of the world will help you get out of your head.

6) Cancel your magazine subscriptions
Celebrity Magazines, fashion magazines, fitness magazines, and even yoga magazines are usually photoshopped to make the models look skinnier.  Even if you enjoy the articles, the images can worm themselves into your mind, making you think that you need to look like that.  I recommend finding bloggers you like instead. I love this post at fit and feminist, where the author recommends that we stop paying attention to celebrity culture because it only encourages us to objectify our own bodies.

7) Spend time with the people you love
People who feel connected to their community lead happier, longer lives.  If you're feeling crappy about yourself, call someone who you really like and make a date with them.


Have you had success in reducing your judgement of your own body?  I'd love to hear about it! Please share either here or by email.